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Posted by on Mar 20, 2015 in Life in Flight Blog |

“You Are Here Now Because You Are a Survivor.”

“You Are Here Now Because You Are a Survivor.”

Not long ago I attended a facinating talk by Dr. Norman Rosenthal. He was invited to speak about his latest book called “The Gift of Adversity.” I didn’t know much about Dr. Rosenthal, but I loved his positive approach. After an impressive introduction Dr. Rosenthal energetically took the stage and warmly greeted the audience with his charming South African accent. Within the first 30 seconds he said something profoundly simple and incredibly powerful. “You are all here now because you are survivors.” I am a survivor… Almost immediately I felt myself grow a bit taller in my seat. There is such strength in that statement, as any number of things could have happened in my life where I may not have been sitting in this seat, listening to this inspirational doctor speak. I’ve always held onto the notion that there are gifts in difficult situations. It’s not always easy (for anyone) to remember this – or appreciate “the gift of adversity” when in the trenches and things aren’t going well. But it’s...

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Posted by on Dec 7, 2014 in Life in Flight Blog |

“What Happy People Know…”

“What Happy People Know…”

I want to be happy! No doubt,  you’ve heard these words before. And you have probably have said them yourself more than once. Happiness = Nirvana. Right? I hear this very phrase from my clients, some of who are at a crossroad and want more from life after years of hard work and sacrifice. Happiness is often at the top of their list. But what exactly is Happiness? Is it a place, a thing, a relationship, a position, a title, and can you buy it? And why is it so damn elusive at times? Do you have to wait “until X happens” that you be happy, or is it only for some people and not others? This is a huge topic, I know, one that I have been fascinated with for a long time. Honestly, I’d like a life with as much of “it” as possible. Being happy, after all, is just more fun. One of my favorite books is by Dr. Dan Baker called “What Happy People Know: How the New Science...

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Posted by on Dec 1, 2014 in Life in Flight Blog |

What You Can Do When Someone’s Upset

What You Can Do When Someone’s Upset

Claudia and I have a deal. When she’s really annoyed and needs to vent, she calls me. Beyond being a very close friend – Claudia is one of my “Trust Tree” friends – it’s been our deal for 18 years. Our pact started because one afternoon, when things weren’t going the way she wanted them to go she just let it rip. To my delight I discovered that when Claudia is all riled up, she’s a bit like Jerry Seinfeld with a razor sharp wit but yet somewhat self-deprecating.  After she had vented her frustrations, I was doubled over (from laughter). My laughing made her vent even more, and then “poof!” it was over and she felt much better. Of course not all venting can be funny. But I was onto something… My experience with other friends was different. When they were upset, I’d immediately feel upset for them. I’d brace myself, start to do damage control because I never want any of my friends to be in pain. My default...

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Posted by on Nov 20, 2014 in Life in Flight Blog |

Is Curiosity the Mental Fountain of Youth?

Is Curiosity the Mental Fountain of Youth?

  This morning I was thinking about the magic of curiosity. Merriam-Webster says it’s the desire to know. The desire to know comes from the place of not having or knowing all the answers. A willingness to have an open mind, to ask questions, and the excitement of learning something new. And in doing so you automatically forsake some of the comforts of judgement or prior knowledge. I’ve learned to keep curiosity is in the forefront of my mind, especially when I’m coaching. An inquisitive mind enables me abandon my own way of thinking, and allows me to ask thoughtful questions, which lead to inspired thinking on behalf of my clients. Children have it in abundance. Animals have it until they learn otherwise (like these seal pups – this photo was taken from my trip to the Galapagos. As I stood completely still, they were so curious that they came within inches of me). I love how the eloquent Diane Sawyer (on OWN’s Master Class) encourages us to “wake...

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Posted by on Oct 20, 2014 in Life in Flight Blog |

The Best Advice Doris Day Gave Me

The Best Advice Doris Day Gave Me

Years ago I was inspired to send a letter to Doris Day. Prompted by the sad passing of Frank Sinatra (in 1998), I thought … why not send a letter of appreciation to one of my favorite actresses (while she is still here)? As most of my friends know, Doris Day is one of my all time favorite movie stars. I have seen all of her films countless times. And on cold bleak winter days I like to watch lighthearted movies like “That Touch of Mink” with the dashing Cary Grant or “Pillow Talk” with Rock Hudson. It was a short note. I introduced myself and explained how much I appreciated her uplifting movies and how I thought that she authentically brought a bright ray of sunshine to her many films.  Since she is also an animal lover, I made sure include a photo of me with my pets. In closing, because she has lived an extraordinary life, I asked her one question. “What’s the best piece of advice you give people?” I...

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Posted by on Oct 14, 2014 in Life in Flight Blog |

The Power of Gratitude

The Power of Gratitude

We hear about the power of gratitude all the time. Why is gratitude so important? What does it really DO for us? Doris Day said it so brilliantly when she said “Gratitude is Riches. Complaint is Poverty.” Please enjoy this inspiring infographic courtesy of Mindvalley...

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